Here's a moment you've probably lived. Someone says the exact same thing to you on two different days. One day you shrug and laugh it off. The next day the same words set you alight, and you're suddenly certain they were aiming at you. The sentence didn't change. What changed was you — something in your inner weather. In the language of energy work, that shifting "something" has a name: your vibration.
A lot of people hear the word "frequency" and assume it's mystical — that you'd need years on a meditation cushion before it made any sense. Bella would rather put it plainly: it's already running in you right now, you just haven't given it a name yet. And once you can see it, you stop feeling quite so pushed around by life. You start being able to choose, at least a little, what state you'd like to live in.
What "Vibration" Actually Means Here
Your vibrational frequency is a way of describing your overall inner state in a given moment — whether you're leaning toward the open, flowing, easy-to-feel-love-and-gratitude end of things, or toward the tight, heavy, fear-and-resistance end. In spiritual language, "high" and "low" frequency are just shorthand for those two felt qualities. Nothing more exotic than that.
You'll often hear "everything is vibration" offered as proof. Let's be honest about where that's true and where it isn't. Physically, yes — all matter is made of particles in constant motion; that part is real. But the leap from there to "your mood emits a specific number of hertz that the universe receives and answers" is not something science has measured. It's a metaphor — a useful way to picture an inner experience, not a law of physics. Bella won't dress it up as a research finding, because that wouldn't be honest. The real usefulness of the idea has nothing to do with instruments. It's this: when you treat your emotions as a kind of "frequency" to observe, you gain a small step back from them. From there you can actually see where you're stuck, and which way you might move.
Why People Say Your Vibration "Shapes What You Attract"
The Law of Attraction gets flattened into "think it and you'll get it," which sets people up to feel like failures. A more grounded way to say it is: the state you're in tends to meet a matching reality — not because the sky is a vending machine, but because your inner state quietly changes how you see the world, the choices you make, and the way you treat other people.
There's a piece of brain anatomy that makes this less woo than it sounds: the reticular activating system, or RAS. It works like a filter. Whatever you put your attention on, it helps you "find" more of. When you're in a more open state, you're quicker to notice an opening, more willing to speak up, more likely to take the small step in front of you. When you're clenched in fear, the very same opportunity can sit right there and you won't see it — or you'll see it and refuse to believe it's meant for you. So rather than saying your vibration summons things, it's closer to say it decides what you'll manage to catch. If you want the fuller logic of how this works in practice, Bella laid it out in the key principles that make the Law of Attraction actually work.
This is why Bella often puts it like this: "You can't attract abundance from inside a fearful state, for the same reason you can't clench your fist and claim you're relaxed." The inner state has to settle first; then things have room to arrive. Note the honesty here — none of this guarantees an outcome. It changes the odds by changing you.
Where Are You Right Now? Your Emotions Are the Dashboard
You don't need any tool to read your own vibration, because your emotions are the most honest dashboard you own. The teacher Abraham-Hicks offers a well-known "Emotional Guidance Scale" — their framing, not a proven fact, but a genuinely useful map. It arranges feelings like a ladder, from the lightest at the top to the heaviest at the bottom: joy, gratitude, love and freedom up high; optimism, hope and contentment below that; then boredom, pessimism, frustration and worry; and at the very bottom, fear, powerlessness and despair.
The point of the ladder isn't to shame yourself into "staying at the top forever." Just the opposite. Its most valuable reminder is that you only ever need to move up one rung. Trying to vault straight from despair to joy almost always fails — the gap is too wide and your body simply doesn't buy it. But despair to anger, then anger to hope? Each of those steps is genuinely doable. Admitting where you actually are is itself the first move upward.
Shifting Up — One Rung at a Time
Once you know the direction, raising your vibration can be surprisingly light work. Here are a few low-barrier ways to do it that you can reach for any time. You don't have to do all of them — pick the one that feels possible right now.
Acknowledge first, then move. Don't scold yourself with "why am I being so negative again." That only presses you further down. Try saying, gently: "I'm a bit heavy right now, and that's normal." Something about naming it loosens the grip, and loosening is what gives you the strength to climb.
Let gratitude pull you up. Gratitude is a fast lane, because it moves your attention off what's missing and back onto what's already here. It doesn't have to be anything grand — a cup of tea that's still warm, the light coming through the window, a person willing to sit with you all count. If you'd like to make this more of a real practice, Bella wrote about a gratitude practice that moves your gaze from lack back to what you already have.
Start from the body. Your state doesn't live only in your thoughts; it lives in your body too. A few deep breaths, standing up and moving, a little sunlight, a song that lets your shoulders drop — when the body softens first, the feeling tends to follow. If you want to get better at telling, on a given day, whether you're running high or low, and how to catch yourself when you slip, see the body-and-mind signals of high versus low states.
Tend your environment. Whatever you soak in for hours at a time gradually tunes you — the feeds you scroll, the people you talk to, the rooms you sit in. They're the background music you stop hearing. Now and then it's worth a quiet check: is this lifting me, or quietly dragging me down?
Staying Steady Matters More Than Reaching the Top
Plenty of people chase a "high vibration" anxiously, as if one dip undoes all their progress. But a real inner life rises and falls — nobody holds a high state twenty-four hours a day, and the pressure to do so is its own kind of low. Bella thinks of it in three small moves: clear — let go of the old thoughts that keep you clenched; plant — set down the feeling and intention you actually want; and allow — loosen your grip, trust the timing, and keep doing what's in front of you to do.
Raising your vibration isn't a contest you win. It's more like a way home that you slowly learn: you notice when you've slipped, and you know how to walk back up, one rung at a time. As that skill gets more familiar, you'll find that good things arriving feels less like luck and more like the natural result of staying steady in a decent state. If you'd like to take that steadiness and turn it into one concrete intention to plant, setting an intention on the night of the new moon is a gentle place to begin.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is "vibrational frequency" real science, or a metaphor?
A bit of both, and it helps to keep them separate. That matter is made of moving particles is a physical fact. But "your emotions emit a specific frequency the universe can receive" has no scientific evidence behind it — it's closer to a metaphor that helps you picture an inner state. Bella suggests treating it as a tool for observing how you feel, not as a medical or scientific guarantee of anything.
If I raise my vibration, am I guaranteed to manifest what I want?
No method can "guarantee" an outcome. What your state influences is the way you notice opportunities, make choices, and take action — so it can raise the odds of good things happening, but it works alongside real-world effort, not instead of it. Imagining alone won't make it appear.
I've felt low for ages. Is my frequency "broken"?
It isn't. A low state is temporary — it's not your essence, and it certainly doesn't mean something is wrong with you. Everyone rises and falls. The point isn't to blame yourself; it's to admit where you are right now, and then move up a single rung.
How long until shifting my state actually feels like something?
Many people feel a little lighter right after one round of deep breathing, gratitude, or a short walk. But settling into a steadier, higher state comes from small daily practice adding up, not from one big burst. Slow is fine. What matters is the direction.
The moment a negative thought shows up, am I attracting bad things?
An occasional negative thought isn't a problem — it's simply human. What actually shapes your reality is the emotional state you live in over the long run, not a single passing thought. So there's no need to panic over one of them; just gently bring yourself back.
Notice how small the real instruction is. Not "become a radiantly positive person by tonight" — just find the next rung up from wherever you're standing, and take it. Do that often enough and steadiness stops being something you chase and becomes something you simply have.